At Hamilton Psychology Clinic, we understand that issues occurring in the relationship can be a major factor in the development of other issues, including anxiety, depression, anger, frustration, grief, fear, etc. This is why we see great value in couples therapy. We believe that when a relationship is good, it can have a positive impact on other areas of life. Several of our clinical psychologists are passionate about providing couples therapy. They all utilise a range of approaches to help people improve their relationships. Our clinic is also LGBTQIA+ friendly – we welcome this population and enjoy working with anyone who struggles in any type of relationship.
There are many ways in which a relationship can experience problems. These can range from minor issues that require a bit of tweaking, or moderate issues requiring some in depth work, to major issues where one or more people may feel threatened in the relationship. No matter how big or small the issues appear, letting them continue and escalate is often the start of the downhill spiral for most relationships. Therefore, seeking couples therapy as early as you notice issues (however minor) is often beneficial, as having someone at that stage who can see objectively without bias what issues each person is bringing to the table, may be exactly the thing that can lead to positive change.
Relationships can be difficult to maintain because each individual is unique, has a specific way of communicating, deals with issues in a different way, and has a range of needs. This may be some of the main factors leading to the statistics of marriage breakups. In particular, relationships that have existed for nine years or less are the largest proportion of couples separating or divorcing. Specifically, statistics suggest that in 2017, 56% of this group of couples separated and 43% divorced. Interestingly, there has also been a rise in separation and divorce in those couples that have been married for 20 years or more.
Treatment options depend on which factors from the above list might be going on and what type of relationship issues are being experienced. Sometimes treatment can involve predominantly communication skills training specific to the couples needs, at other times, more in depth work is required for each individual to understand both their own reactions and that of the other person.
There are a range of approaches to address relationship issues: Interpersonal Psychotherapy; Emotion-Focused Therapy-Schema Therapy (adapted for couples); Positive Psychology; communication skills training; sensate focus therapy (specifically for sexual issues).
Issues within a relationship are not the only relational issues that exist where people can benefit from therapy. There are lots of people who struggle interpersonally, making it difficult to build connections with others, develop friendships or intimate relationships, or even understand social and emotional cues. It is common for individuals who find it difficult to develop lasting relationships with others to be unaware of what it is they are doing (or not doing) that is making it difficult. Given that we are predominantly social beings, relational, interactional and interpersonal issues are important to focus on for long term benefits.
There are numerous factors that may be involved in, or impacting interpersonal difficulties:
There are various psychological therapies that can assist with changing interpersonal struggles, whereby the therapist will help increase insight and awareness into what might be causing the difficulties, how to alter unhelpful patterns, and develop skills. These include Interpersonal Psychotherapy, Schema-Focused Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Attachment-Based Therapy, communication skills training, and social skills straining.